Beautifully Broken “Letting go of the idea of perfection”

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A mirror is a device that we can’t avoid looking at a dozen times a day, but it always passes back judgment without fail. We wouldn’t allow someone to pick apart our looks every time we glance at them, but we do it to ourselves and we are OK with it.

I don’t know why every mirror looks different? You can go in a store bathroom and the mirror is different from your bathroom mirror and the mirror at the gym is different then the one you just loved your self in.

Do you have a favorite mirror that you feel looks like the real you vs. the mirror that can make mirror (you know the one) where every side seems to be your bad side? Or, have you ever intentionally not looked in a mirror that is right in front of you, just because you weren’t up to dealing with the negative thoughts? 

 
It’s so frustrating how much of an impact looking in the “wrong” mirror can have on your day. 
 
We all maintain an illusion of what we think we look like.
Shattering illusions are painful and best avoided whenever possible. Why do you think that filters are popular for selfie images? We can’t have the world seeing us as we really are, can we? They need to see us as we imagine ourselves to be. 
 
We filter ourselves – virtually and in reality – for so much of our lives that we often forget what’s underneath. Or, perhaps, we try to forget.

How harshly do you judge your own features?  We are obsessively focused on imperfections and judge ourselves critically daily.  We can learn to remove at least some of that judgment with self-reflection.

No one is completely satisfied with their natural appearance. We all change it in some way, some more than others. Why? What are we afraid of? What are we hiding? Or hiding from?

Our reflections stare back at us, asking “Will you accept me?”

We look in mirrors because we know others are looking. We judge because we think others are judging. The mirror is, in essence, a stand-in for all those people we expose ourselves to all day long , And the self-judgment is as harsh as we imagine the other-judgment to be.

The onslaught of modern media and marketing is a huge contributor to our low body-esteem. 

How can you change the way you see yourself (less judgmental) when you look in the mirror? 
The best way to accept the person you see in the mirror is to practice seeing others without judgment based on their physical appearance.
 
I know everyone has heard , “ treat others the way you want to be treated”. But diminishing other-judgment is crucial for diminishing your own self-judgment
“ why do you judge others by their appearance ?” If we’re not focused on physical attraction , the honest answer is that it’s a way to feel better about some perceived flaw in ourselves.
 
At least my “fill in the blank” isn’t like hers. 
 
If you always have critical eyes towards others, what will you do when looking at yourself in the mirror? Learning to look beneath surface level in others for who they really are and not their appearance will help you look beneath your own skin as well. 
 
I read this the other day and these words say exactly what you need to hear . 
Let go of the idea of perfection — you are not perfect, you are real. Let yourself be flawed, and allow yourself to make mistakes. Recognize that you’re not always going to have it all together. Sometimes your heart is going to break, you are going to get hurt, you are going to feel pain. Don’t apologize for being broken — every time you break you become a little more alive. You become more open with yourself. You become exposed to your sensibility. Every crack tells you a little more about yourself — your strength, your courage, your tenacity — what you’re made of. Do not hide these pieces from the world, they are a part of who you are. You see, the most beautiful people are beautifully broken. Their hearts are heavy but they love the deepest. They have seen the dark but they appreciate everything that shines. They’re compassionate, understanding, and empathetic. Beautiful hearts just don’t happen — and you my dear are going to show the world just how beautiful you are.

Let go and Love yourself ! Remember the Dreams you once dreamed , get back on track and start living your life to the fullest !! You are worth it!